Tales from the Single Relationship Expert: THE DETOX

The Detox

I don’t even know where to begin so I’ll start with the most recent break up. Of course I would love to point the finger and blame the ex for the demise of what could have been my fairy tale ending, but I won’t. Truth is, the relationship moved way too quickly and was crashing and burning faster than people’s empathy for that Kardashian who tried to blame that girl for her baby daddy’s cheating ways.

I knew I should have listened to the zodiac, we were not compatible. Am I the only one that starts reading compatibility horoscopes when things start to take a turn for the worse? Don’t answer that. Everyone has their guilty pleasures. Mine are zodiac signs, binge watching shows on Netflix when I should be more productive and listening to 90’s R&B like the tracks were released yesterday.

Anyway, like I said, I’m taking the blame for this one. You see, I once again ignored red flags trying to give the benefit of the doubt. Luckily for me these red flags turned into flaring sirens and I had no choice but to save myself. I have to say I am more alert with noticing signs of danger and I am getting quicker with the rescue mission of moi. I could have sworn I was practicing what I preach when I say be who you want to attract. I will continue to stay true to that knowing the devil will try your spirit.

I’ve never really been one to point the finger. I point the whole hand lol just kidding. If you’ve read my book Diving In Stilettos First you would agree that I don’t male bash, blame any of the men for their behavior or name call… out loud. I’m no Bitter Betty despite countless disappointments and I realize that regardless of the situation the only factor I can control is me. I am a hopeless romantic and will never stop believing in true love. It’s who I am so I’ll continue to love on me and one day I will meet a man who truly matches my energy. To be honest I just want to walk in my purpose. Everything will fall into place.

Since 2019 started I have had this uneasy feeling. I can’t seem to find comfort anywhere. I came in strong and positive ready for change and new opportunities. People were contacting me for speaking engagements and interviews and calling me The Relationship Expert. My cousin and I were really getting the hang of our IG Live Show “Her View” (every Tuesday at 8pm) shameless plug, and I was in a relationship that I thought would flourish because we told each other it would.

Toward the end of January I hit a funk. My gym had closed and I wasn’t working out 3-4 times a week. So I had no place to really release some tension. It was like this dark cloud was following me and I couldn’t get rid of it. Have you ever had those days when everything is wonderful, you feel unstoppable and then the next day it’s the worst day ever and nothing is going right? Usually I could shake it off and move forward, but I was stuck. I was not happy with my lack of fitness and bad eating habits, my book promotion or my relationship and on top of all of that I started apartment hunting. I was being pulled in many directions by many people; I was trying to be everything to everyone and failing miserably. Don’t even get me started on wearing a big ass down coat on the NYC subway day after day because of the frigid temperatures.

So in an attempt find my light, I threw myself into work and creating content for IG and I purged a little. There was no way I was going to accept the title of Relationship Expert and be miserable in my draining relationship with my boyfriend so I ended it. Feeling overwhelmed from relationships with some friends and family I started missing a few calls all while still trying to save face for my work relationships which were also trying at times. I needed to recharge. We all know you can’t give from an empty cup.

This leads me to the detox. For the next 28 days I will partake in the Goddess Body Detox Cleanse. I did this detox last September and I had a wonderful fall season. I even lost 10lbs. Well with spring in a few days, it’s only right I get rid of these winter blues and belly bloating. I will be working out 3-4 times a week again while indulging in this plant based rejuvenation of my mind, body and spirit. Just from me making the decision to purge, the opportunities keep coming. I will be working with people I met at other events for collaborations, I have be chosen again to be a Shea Moisture ambassador so I will share those products with you and I have started this blog. See all the blessings you can catch when you release dead weight!

So I say all this to say, choose happiness every day. The most important relationship you can have is with yourself. So treat yourself like someone you care about, remember you have a purpose and check out this blog every Monday. I hope to make you laugh, smile, gain some perspective and be a light!

Toodles Noodles!